Youth And Adult Problems
If we look at the technological developments of the world over the last 50
years you may thought that it passed as 500 years. May I kindly invite you to
think of the interchanges from using stone records to CD’s , from movie to huge
DVD screen TV’s , from radio to internet, from classical phone to mobile’s.
Enourmously fast changes are occuring continuously.This was the reason that some
generations had seen both old gramaphone & CD player in their life. While
technology is improving with long paces, humans learned & got the taste of
using these latest technologies in their daily practical uses. It is certain
that young generations are more adaptable to this fast changes. On the other
hand old generations are generally conservative & reluctant to adapt
themselves to these changes.Their general characteristic attitude is to keep the
way of their life similar to they adapted. They
prefer to live as to how they
used to live & keep their regular habits as it is. They do not want to live
inside
these new happenings, only from time to time may watch & observe
from far away without taking a role inside.
This is the main reason of
causing contradictions between young & old generations. These contradictions
occurred in the past when this old generation was young with their elders &
now occurring with them & their childs. This contradiction was not a new
phenomena which was happening over the decades perhaps started with the
beginning of humanity & will last for ever. But the fastest improvement in
the technology & its unavoidable effects on humans daily lifes are causing
very quick & drastic changes in human behaviours.
Both young &
old generations may have conflicts in many respects. These may be categorised in
two main titles. If I make a self critique ; we youngs can’t stand against to
problems. We just want a perfect life. We want to solve every problem in best
way. For example we suggest buying slimmed and ready to eat tomateos from super
markets, to people who are buying and carrying tomateos from the market place.
We don’t think about its price. We are so comfortable by sitting at home and
watching tv’s or shopping with the money that our parents earn. We adore to
luxury. We don’t appreciate people who do not similar to us. We accuse them by
being old-fashioned. We generally do not want to think & understand the
efforts & hard work that our parents have to gain their lives. With years
& years hard & difficult work lifes they tried to build up. In fact our
parents are doing their best for the future of us. They are standing against
many diffuculties for this purpose. They never wish us to live the diffuculties
whisch had been lived by themselves. This is their main goal in their life. So
they sacrifice many thing from their lifes in order to present to us a very good
future. For an example, think about our education and the responsiblity of
giving a good education. This is not an easy work. Our grandmothers and
grandfathers were making tomato paste. They also were withering vegetables in
summer and preparing to eat in winter when there were no refrigrator. My friends
please dont tell them, that to do these type of things are rubbish while you can
buy it ready. Because every humans life is particular for himself. We must not
forget that we are the sons and daugters of the people who had seen the
independence war in their lifes the shortage of food, cloth, even pencil to
write. If our grandfathers hadn’t had troubles, we wouldn’t have the opportunity
we are having. If we are eating what ever we want or dressing what ever want to
dress. Is maintained by our parents.
For some of our grand parents buying
things which are not neceassary other than giving an extra comfort to us, or
buying expensive brand name clothes are considered as spreading money out of
use, to wake up late on weekends are considered as lazyness, surfing in internet
is waste of time.
Elders must adapt themselves to todays life standards
& must show tolerance to our behaviors & our life styles. If they will
try to understand they will recognise that they have some things to be learned
from us. Instead of keeping their conservative nature as it is, if they will
allow themselves free from their stringent ideas or thoughts they will feel more
happy & will become more friendly & sympathic to us. They may learn new
tastes new pleasures & enjoy themselves. We together may share the life
together which they will be more happy.
If they will gain our thrust, we
may speak with them openly & tell the things that we made wrong & our
faults which have the risk to be understood in the wrong way. But if they use
these spoken things in arguments with them instead of keeping them as secret
then we loose our thrust to our family members. If they will show understanding
as a close friend or a brother to the faults & mistakes which we told them
then they will have the chance of keeping the control of us from far away which
is to our benefit as far as to their benefit. By this way we may have the chance
not to repeat our faults & to be on the safe side. Otherwise they will have
no chance of learning our wrong sides & to correct them. If we loose our
thrust to each other & cannot speak with our parents then we try to find
friends whom we can share our secrets. Loosening the close relation has the risk
of
doing big mistakes which cannot be compensated.
In fact we do not
want to understand our elders & on the other hand some of our elders
sincerely do not want to understand us. The second part of the idea may be
seemed wrong & difficult to accept this confusing idea at first glance. Some
fathers & mothers are so busy that they have no time to spend with their
childs. Are you accepting that this is true. It depends on the choices of our
parents. If they really want they may find some time to deal with us & do
not hidden under some axcuses. On the other hand when our elders want to speak
with us & tell something else we mostly refuse to listen them because at
that time we were either surfing in internet or listening a music or watching a
film or a match on TV or speaking with a friend on the phone. There mostly have
something more preferable thing to do for us instead of listening their boring
talkings & advices. Sometimes when they become angry on us & force us to
listen them then we obliged to listen their angry talkings which we easily
forget after a short while. This is not the true way of communication with them.
We have to find & build up a friendly & sincere relation with them. Our
parents have to find some way to communicate with us but this is not so easy for
some parents so we must help them by saying the truths & show the way we
understand.
The entartainment styles of different generations are
different from each other similar to the life styles. This difference show
itself from the entertainment places to the music they are listening to. As far
as I understand the sense of taste, the enjoyments, the pleasures, are changing
with the age. For example my mother & father was not listening classic
Turkish art music, found it slow & boring when they were young but started
to listen after some age & their pleasure developed more & more with
their ages. Now their first choice is listening that music. Similar to the
music, the entertainment places & their programs are different for each
generation.
The entertainment mind is not only different to each
generation but also changing with time & from society to society. When our
parents were young, there were organised school parties, friends come together
in pastry- shops. Very rare organised special balls in which they may make slow
dances like tangos with each other.
Now in every where there are a lot of
cafes, bars, discos in which our generation may go together with their friends.
Certainly there are a lot of good places for the younsters as well as the bad
places. All of the youngsters who are going to these places cannot be considered
as rebellious or vagabond. Otherwise it will be a prejudice.
For our
elders to give permission for us to go these places are really difficult. We
have to know that it is very difficult for our parents to accept our wish to go
to these places at first glance because they are not sure whether these are
safety places for us or not. During asking their permission we must not argue
with our parents, instead we must try to convince them that the place we want to
go is a safe place & we are going with reputable old friends whom our
parents know them previously. On the other hand our parents must try to
understand us & from time to time must give permission to us for going to
entertainment places with our friends. This is one of our need & it must be
considered as normal although very difficult to accept by some of our
parents.
Young generations sometimes may be considered as disrespectful,
shameless, (endless requests never ended,) irresponsible by their elders. The
common criticism which I heard the most is that we are degenerated
& we
do not accept & do not apply our society’s traditional & cultural
values, do not give enough importance to them. We are judged with their
subjective values & compared with their way of thinking & doing the
things.
But they must understand that we are different, we are not a copy
of them we have different values, different thinking different behaviour. From
the other side youngsters complaint that they do not understood well enough by
their elders. Some of my friends are considering their elders as undeveloped,
stupid, insensitive, lack in understanding, old-fashioned, opening their mouths
only for giving advices, instead of trying to understand them. We must accept
that not all of us have the same problem. Some friends are very lucky that they
may have well educated & well prepared families who have very good
communication & understanding with their elders.
As tried to be
explained above with only some details there are a lot more different subjects
which we are different from our parents covering in every detail of our life. We
are different from our elders. This truth must be accepted by our elders
sincerely & they must not try to force us to behave as similar to them. We
have different ideas, different characters & we are not a copy of our
elders.
We have to build up good relations with
them
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